As a queer wedding photographer who has been in the industry for multiple years, I have helped many couples navigate the wedding planning process and the societal pressures that come with it. I am all about making things simple and comfortable for my couples, so here are a few nuggets of knowledge I’ve picked up!
Queer Wedding Planning Tips
Tip # 1 – Ensure your vendors are lgbtq+ friendly.
Having vendors that align with your values is SO important. Not only will it assure that you’re respected, it will also make things smoother in ways you might not have even thought about. Couples have shared that the fact I CC both partners on email communication (rather than mentally assigning one as the “bride”) stands out to them. This is a practice I have in place for all of my couples, regardless of their genders and sexuality, because the day is for BOTH of them!
When you’re researching vendors, check out their about page and reviews to get insight into their values. Look at the language they use on their contact forms, emails, and questionnaires; is it inclusive? If you hire a queer friendly vendor you really vibe with, you can also ask them if they have referrals for the vendors you’re still looking for. I have a whole list of LGBTQ+ friendly vendors I share with my couples!
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Tip #2 – You don’t “have” to do anything on your wedding day.
A common hangup for a lot of couples is feeling pressured by wedding traditions and expectations from others about what they “should” do. I spend a lot of time with my couples talking about what is important to them, what they like to do, and what they’re most excited about for their wedding day. From there, we brainstorm how we can create pockets of joy that are just for them throughout their day.
Some couples choose to get ready together. Others feel that walking down the aisle together is the most natural. Some choose to follow the layout of a traditional wedding day while still incorporating moments that feel like them (like singing into wooden spoons on the dance floor). It’s all about following your gut feeling!
Tip #3 – Book an engagement session.
I highly suggest booking an engagement session before your wedding. So many people (myself included) feel uncomfortable in front of a camera. It can also be nerve-wracking to wonder how “stereotypical” heterosexual couples poses will translate to your relationship and gender presentation. My process is designed to put both you and your partner at ease in order to bring out your most authentic selves. A lot of my couples share that they feel much less nervous about having a photographer at their wedding day after we do our engagement session. It’s also a great way to have photos at a different location that is meaningful to you and your partner (or with a pet!!!).
Having a photographer that has your back and will go to bat for you is important on your wedding day, especially if you’re creating a day that breaks from traditions and expectations. I work with you to support your vision throughout the planning process to capture a truly memorable celebration.
Curious to see these tips in action? Check out my LGBTQ+ midcoast Maine wedding blog here!
Meet your queer Maine wedding photographer!
Hi, I’m Marena and I adore creating meaningful connections with people. With a focus on documentary photography, I strive to highlight connection in my work. I’m always looking to capture the small glances exchanged, a brush of hands, and the little moments that paint the big picture.
During your wedding day, you can expect me to be hyping you up, capturing natural, intimate moments, and most importantly, making sure you feel comfortable!
